What do you do, when you don’t know what to do?
We all have fears, we all have worries and we all at some point in our lives feel insecure. We may have broken up with our partners, or lost our jobs. Someone we love may have died; we may have suffered or be suffering with major health concerns. Whatever it is, at some point in our lives we will all face this issue.
So what do we do, when we don’t know what to do? Some people deal with this by withdrawing from the world. They may go back to bed and stay there for days. Other people get really depressed and turn their inner critic on; blaming themselves for everything wrong in their lives and other people’s lives. Others turn this feeling outward blaming others because they can’t face their own truths, so instead blame others.
What is the common denominator, between these two different types of people? They are both suffering and struggling to find their way in the world. As people we tend to favour the first type of person, the passive type. We tend to sidestep the more aggressive personality type. No one wants to be attacked yet, most people want to help. So we often decide who we will help, based on these reasons.
When we don’t know what to do, we search for answers. However, we often forget to look in the right places. Isolating ourselves from the world only increases our sense of hopelessness. We justify reason’s not to take assistance offered to us, by family, friends or colleagues. Attacking others drives possible solutions away from us.
So how can we move from not knowing what to do, to finding a solution to the thing that ails us? First step always with any problem or difficulty is to admit you don’t have the answer. Secondly, we must connect with other people. If we can’t go outside to do this, go on line, ring a helpline. That way you can retain your anonymity if you wish to conceal it. There are many organisations out there, who are open 24 hrs a day and on the end of a phone line or internet connection. If you can manage it, talk to friends, family, remember people enjoy giving as much as taking. It is your turn now to let them assist you. When you don’t know what to do remember you are loved, remember you are precious and reach out your hand to others. If you are reading this and know of someone suffering take a chance offer your help, they may just accept it.